Finding Your Emotional Home Within

May we all learn to build our emotional home within ourselves, not in others who may have the power to make us feel homeless. Don’t place your sense of safety, love, or worth inside another human being. I wish I had known that sooner. I wish everyone knew that sooner.

No one tells you this in childhood, because unconscious parents often raise unconscious children. They didn’t know it themselves, so they couldn’t teach it. And rarely does anyone say it to adults either. But one of the greatest discoveries of my life has been this: when you make other people your emotional home, you hand them a power no human should hold over you.

When the people we over-invested in emotionally withheld validation, inclusion, acceptance, or love, even for a single day, we feel abandoned. That emptiness grows into anxiety and avoidance, shaping our attachment style in later years.

It’s because we had unknowingly given them our address. We had made them our home. So when they betray us, we feel like a homeless wanderer, adrift, rootless, without belonging.

The truth is, you are your own home. You always were. You always will be.